Struggling to get pregnant is one of the most heartbreaking and frustrating episodes in your life.
Struggling to get pregnant means that all the joy and affection can easily evaporate from your lovemaking.
Everything becomes clinical and measured. What started off as an exciting adventure, has now become a desperate and traumatic journey of trying over and over… checking results and feeling more deflated as each effort fails to produce the pregnancy you so desperately want.
Acute feelings of stress and negativity could be pushing your likelihood of conceiving further and further away – but there may be something positive, you can draw strength from.
I will explain all at the end of this article
Feelings of Hopelessness Make Matters Worse
When You’re Struggling to Get Pregnant
It can be so isolating, when you go to your doctor, after 6 months of trying to get pregnant, only to be met with indifference.
Your doctor will only consider getting involved, when you’ve been trying unsuccessfully for a year or more.
So the encouragement and helpful solutions you thought might be available, evaporate in a cloud of frustration, and you realise you’re alone with the problem.
Hopefully, your relationship is strong enough to withstand the stress and strain that can so easily boil up from feelings of failure.
Stress can create an atmosphere where your sleep suffers. It can also affect your appetite, and make you feel tense and irritable.
While this is a completely normal set of reactions, the impact that poor sleep and stress can have, may adversely affect your capacity to conceive.
You May Recognise Yourself in This Case Study
These Emotional Effects Are Experienced by Many
A happy couple in their mid-thirties (let’s call them the Johnstons), with a relatively healthy lifestyle, were trying for a second child.
They were getting a little frustrated, as everything seemed normal, but the much wanted pregnancy had not materialised after six months.
Their doctor had refused treatment at this early stage, although suggested trying on alternate days, but this didn’t make any difference.
The Internet is full of helpful advice, much of which the Johnstons followed meticulously, but nothing had the desired effect. It seemed there were many unofficial “experts” who had a list of solutions, but none of them made a scrap of difference.
For Mrs Johnstone, this was an emotionally difficult time. The Johnstons already had one child, and they had naturally thought the second one would be as easy as the first.
Mrs Johnstone became depressed and found it difficult to get out of bed at weekends. Two women in the office where she worked were pregnant, and of course this made her feelings of failure grow stronger.
The emotional upset was taking over her life and affecting everything. She tried to put her depression to one side, but it was impossible, and she spent much of her spare time on forums, trying to get answers and encouragement.
Maybe you can recognise similarities here, between this and your own emotional rollercoaster ride, while struggling to get pregnant.
How you can remain positive and upbeat
while you’re efforts to conceive aren’t working
Putting the physical and medical parts of your attempts to conceive on one side, let’s look at how you might overcome the emotional damage created when pregnancy plans seem to be failing.
Close friends and family who know what’s going on, will probably tell you to stay positive. It’s an obvious thing to say, but almost certainly the most difficult piece of advice to follow.
Finding a helpful and positive mindset can be almost impossible, when you have a daily reminder that everything you’re doing is not working.
However, a number of people have reversed out of their negative mindset, so they’re able to continue with a reinforced belief, that can take them on to a successful pregnancy.
At Fertile Mindset, Sarah Holland has had some considerable success, guiding couples towards a positive result, using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).
Find out more about how Sarah can help you, by tailoring a program to your individual needs, by clicking the link below.
Sarah will send you a free guide that will show you the 5 key ways your emotions can support (or damage) your fertility…
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We wish you joy and happiness…